Bad One Night Stand vs Rape

There is a huge difference between a bad one-night-stand decision and a rape.

One starts with a heavy flirting game and and is followed by a consented decision - drunk or not - to have a heating sexual action before hitting the sack. If in the morning it feels like an aweful mistake, well it IS a mistake. A mistake that you wrongly decided at a bad time.

A rape on the other hand, is a sexual act that is being forced to an un-consented individual. If I hit a guy on the street for trying to grab my ass, then he hits me back and forces me to have sex with him, that means I am being raped.

Why is it so hard for him to understand?

Is it that hard for YOU to understand? If you don't agree with me, please leave a comment here and prove me wrong. I have never wanted so much to be proven wrong like I do now.

Sometimes I wish I was less independent and more needy just to get more attention from him. But I can't help being able to defend myself from nasty Sanur or Kuta guys until maybe... God forbids, one day when they find out that I am not as physically strong as I look. Until then, my boyfriend may still need to find other "weaker" girls to protect when they are drunk.


  1. Anonymous9:09 am

    What if you decide on a one night stand, but then your change your mind then he forcibly has sex with you?

  2. It's a rape at the end of the day in that case. But what's the chance for that to happen in like millions of one-night-stands that happen every day? Will you stop all your friends from having one night stands every time they attempt to have one?

  3. Anonymous4:41 am

    I've been in a situation where I wanted to fool around, but was not interested in sex. I said no but he slipped it in anyways. Does my previous flirting mean this is permissible? I don't think so. I disagree with your strong stance on this issue. I feel that these things should be judged case by case. For example, in my case rape may even be too strong a word to use but I feel some form of sexual assault did occur.